For Issy Stapleton

Hello Issy,

As I write this, you’re still in hospital and whilst signs are pretty good that you’ll survive what has been done to you, you still may not. I am hoping and praying that you survive this Issy.

I’ve never met you. I don’t know you. But I don’t have to know you to know that you are a wonderful amazing human being and you are very special. There is only one Issy Stapleton, there has never been one before and there will never be another – you are unique.  You are fearfully and wonderfully made and, nobody, nobody anywhere has the right to make you stop existing.
Somebody tried to stop you existing, to take away from the world the only Issy Stapleton that will ever, ever exist. That is Not Okay, Issy. That should never happen to anyone and lots of people are very sad and angry that such a bad thing happened to you. We want to put things right and make things better, we wish we could make it so that it never happened in the first place but we can’t.

All we can do is try to comfort you and protect you and make sure you know that this was never, ever your fault. Not even a little bit. There is absolutely nothing you could have done that would make it okay to try to kill you. Nothing. 

We love you Issy. We love you for exactly who you are. Whatever you do, wherever you go, we love you. Because you are unique and precious – and because you are one of us. You’re autistic, I’m autistic. Thousands and thousands of people all across the world are autistic. Everywhere and anywhere on Earth you go, there will be other autistic people. Look for us, Issy. We will be your friends, if you want. Your mentors, your family, your community, if you’ll have us. And we will be your allies and comrades always because you are one of us, and if someone hurts one of us the rest of us will always come running to help in any way we can.

If you and your Dad are ever in the UK, tell me in a comment on this blog or on twitter and I’ll come do something fun with you. Whatever you like doing, just British-er. Okay? I really mean that Issy.

With so much love,